Affirmations for the Dying

(Taken from the description in the new video.)

Those of us who are dying can often feel alone. 

They’re turning into butterflies, when their loved ones, even though they may mean well, want to keep them as caterpillars.

That’s understandable. 

Letting go is hard; we’ve spent so long holding on.

But let go we must, and nobody knows that better than the dying.

I’ve known several people who have died. Some have been friends, others have been members of my family. 

I volunteered at my local hospice for a number of years, getting to know many people who knew they were dying. I saw that twinkle in their eye; that unique twinkle of a dying star.

Strange how it gets brighter towards the end. You wouldn’t think so. But it does.

Whatever the widespread belief is, regarding death and dying, for me it is fundamentally beautiful. 

It’s a natural and organic process, that we embarked upon the moment we were born. 

Shun death, and we shun life.

I wanted to do something, in my own limited way, for those of us who are dying. Something I wish I’d have done earlier, for those close to me who have been through the dying process. 

So I made this video.

The affirmations it contains are what I assume I would like to listen to, when it is my time to soar. They’re something to aid the transition, to help loosen the grip, to assist in facing the facts.

If you are reading this, and you are dying, consider this my gift to you. 

I truly hope you find peace in the process.

Sending you love and light and all things bright.

Your friend,

Gavin

Published by Gavin Whyte

I am the author of the modern-day fables The Girl with the Green-Tinted Hair, and Happiness & Honey, plus several other works of fiction.

3 thoughts on “Affirmations for the Dying

  1. Thank you for this video. I have a great fear of death, not just for me but fear of going through the grieving process. For some reason it haunts me to know someday I will lose the ones I love. Lately I have had trouble sleeping. It’s been 6 months and I wake up with panic attacks. I am grateful to find your blog. I am praying it gives me some peace. If you have any advice for me, I would be grateful. Thank you again.

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    1. Hi there. First and foremost, thank you for commenting, and for sharing what you’re going through. It can be a haunting prospect, thinking that one day our loved ones won’t be around. Look again at that sentence. It’s a thought that’s haunting. Not the actual event itself. A thought. When we pay attention to worrisome thoughts, our minds naturally run away with themselves and have fun creating all kinds of scenarios. Worrisome thoughts = worrisome scenarios. Happy, peaceful thoughts = happy, peaceful scenarios. It’s natural to fear death. Every living thing is programmed to live. But what’s not natural is allowing the THOUGHT of death to ruin our state of living. Just like the fear of death is natural, so is the grieving process. It’s never easy losing those we love, but we get through it, one day at a time. And slowly but surely our colourful life begins to shine so brightly that the pain of loss, although it is still very much present, and is still very much felt within us, loses its grip on us, because we learn to live in the face of grief, in the face of pain. We learn to smile again without feeling guilty, learn to laugh again without doubting whether or not it’s the right thing to do. Give more attention to your moment to moment existence, because when you do end up losing someone you’ll know that you made the most of their presence when they were around, that you weren’t fearing them NOT being there when they WERE there. And in the face grief you’ll know how to grieve, and you’ll be fine. Every time you have a worrisome thought, smile at it. See it as just that, a thought. Practice smiling at such thoughts and they will, slowly but surely, lose their strength. Look into NLP, and how useful it is to practice replacing a negative thought with a positive one. Be patient with yourself. It all takes time. But the good news is, it’s never too late to start working on ourselves. Try sitting for 5 minutes a day, twice a day. Just sit, put all your attention onto your breath – and smile. And every time a thought comes, smile at it and bring your attention back to your breathing. In. Out. In. Out. Your panic attacks will subside, because you will be giving less attention to your thoughts, and more attention on being here, right now, in this space where life happens. I wish you well. Many blessings.

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