49 Affirmations for the Grieving

Here is a list of affirmations used in the video, Affirmations for the Grieving, on Tales & Meditations.

With thanks to Paul Denniston at Grief Yoga for allowing me to combine his affirmations with my own.

  1. I am allowing myself to grieve.
  2. I have patience with myself.
  3. It’s natural to feel all that I am feeling.
  4. I am giving my heart all the time it needs to heal.
  5. I am riding the wave of grief the best I can, with its infrequent highs and its frequent lows.
  6. A bond may have been severed, but the bond I have with myself and those around me is still strong. I cherish this bond.
  7. I cherish the memories I co-created with my loved one.
  8. I will get through this.
  9. Life still has meaning.
  10. In my sadness, I love myself.
  11. It’s okay to take time to grieve.
  12. I let go of my sorrow, but hold onto the love I feel for my loved one.
  13. I am willing to release any negative and fearful ideas from my mind, body, and life.
  14. It’s okay to be angry at having to grieve.
  15. It’s okay to be angry at being hurt and in pain.
  16. I am not a victim.
  17. I am not to blame.
  18. All is forgiven.
  19. I will feel my grief but not wallow in it.
  20. I choose love.
  21. I choose to heal.
  22. I relax and let all feelings flow through me.
  23. I have lived and loved, and will continue to live and to love.
  24. Grieving takes time. I am patient with my healing process.
  25. I forgive anyone close to me who has died.
  26. I accept what I cannot change and find the courage to change the things I can.
  27. My life has purpose.
  28. I live today with compassion and love.
  29. I look for the silver lining around every grey cloud.
  30. I allow myself to rest.
  31. I allow myself to take it easy.
  32. There is no rush.
  33. I take care of myself as I heal.
  34. I am discovering new strengths within myself.
  35. Like the lotus flower that grows in mud, I, too, am blooming through my pain.
  36. I am thankful for the time I shared with my loved one.
  37. If I didn’t get the chance to say goodbye, I can say it now.
  38. If I didn’t say I love you, I can say it now.
  39. If I didn’t apologise, I can apologise now.
  40. If I didn’t forgive, I can forgive now.
  41. Letting go is not the same as forgetting, for letting go and accepting what is, is integral to my healing.
  42. Crying is not a sign of weakness.
  43. The lows I am feeling are natural.
  44. I am safe.
  45. Life is still safe.
  46. Wherever my loved one is, I send them love and compassion.
  47. It’s OK to question life.
  48. It’s normal to feel unstable.
  49. It’s normal to feel that life is no longer my friend – but deep down I know it is.

If you like to listen to affirmations, and like to use guided meditations, then you might like to subscribe to my YouTube channel Tales & Meditations.

It would be an honour to have you part of the growing community.

Blessings.

Gavin

New Video: Affirmations for the Grieving

When I first thought about setting up Tales & Meditations, there were two videos I really wanted to do. Affirmations for the Dying, and this one – Affirmations for the Grieving.

I know firsthand how hard it is to lose someone (or a pet). The world can feel like a very lonely place, dark, dreary, unsafe. Grief can trick us into perceiving life as meaningless.  

This video, along with these affirmations, is my way of saying, to whoever is in the midst of grief: Please be patient with yourself. I know it’s hard. Life is still to be lived. Even if it feels like the sun has been stolen from your sky. You woke up this morning. You’re going to be OK. Take one day at a time. Breathe.

I hope this video helps you. If it plants a seed of support and comfort, provides a crack where a sliver of light is able to shine through, then my efforts haven’t been in vain.

I want to thank Paul Denniston at Grief Yoga, for giving me permission to include his fantastic affirmations alongside my own. I stumbled upon his blog, then got in touch with him. He was very supportive of this video being made. 

Here’s a little about Paul, (taken from his website: https://griefyoga.com):
“Paul Denniston created Grief Yoga and has taught this practice to over 5000 therapists, counselors and health care professionals around the world and teaches workshops around the US. Paul’s creation of Grief Yoga blends Hatha, Vinyasa Flow, Kundalini Yoga, Restorative Yoga, Laughter Yoga, and Let Your Yoga Dance into a space of transformation and healing. His intention is combining many different branches of yoga in order to channel and release anger, and allow unresolved grief a compassionate space to breathe and be released to help us connect to the resilient loving warrior within.”

Please check out all of the amazing work Paul does by visiting his website: https://griefyoga.com 

The complete list of affirmations used in this video can be found here, on my website.

If you’ve lost someone and are indeed grieving right now, it’s important to know you’re not alone. There’re many resources to help you (like GriefYoga). 

If you’re in the UK, I highly recommend getting in touch with Cruse Bereavement Care. I trained with them as a bereavement support worker in 2012. They do a great job. There website is: https://www.cruse.org.uk

If you’re in the US, you might like to look at Mental Health America. Their website is: https://www.mhanational.org/bereavement-and-grief

Remember, it’s a sign of strength to seek support. With over 7.5 billion people on this planet, and around 150,000 people dying in the world every day – every day! – there’s really no need to go through what you’re going through alone. There is help and support out there.

Please let me know in the comment section if this video has been at all helpful. If it has, I would massively appreciate a thumbs-up, and if you feel like joining the Tales & Meditations community, then tap that subscribe button (along with the little notification bell). It would be great to have you on-board. 

Blessings.

Gavin

I Got Cool Mugs & Hoodies & Stuff

Why are they cool, you ask?

Because they have the Tales & Meditations’ funky little logo on them.

That’s right. I went ahead and set up a merchandise store.

Available, right now, are affordable T-shirts, like this:

Cool mugs, like this:

Along with hoodies, tank tops, mousepads, and stickers.

Anyway, thought I’d let you know 🙂

Blessings.

Gavin

New Video: Affirmations for Money and Me

Affirmations for Money and Me is the new video on Tales & Meditations. It contains affirmations to not only help you change your mindset surrounding money and living an abundant life, but also those to help you feel good and grateful about being you.

If that tickles your fancy, then please click here to view it.

It’s best to listen to this video using earphones/headphones, for the background music contains alpha brainwaves. These waves are known to promote relaxation and boost creativity.

As with all affirmations, it’s best to listen to them frequently. I recommend you listen to them as soon as you wake up, and before you go to bed.

Here’s to your wealth, health, and happiness.

Blessings.

Gavin

Thank you, Maharaji

So this is what happened…

My wife and I step on the free bus to the MRT. We’re on our way to the east of Taiwan for a weekend vacation. (We currently live in Taipei.)

Now, for the past couple of months, before going to bed each night, I’ve been reading a few snippets of Ram Dass’s book, Miracles of Love – Stories about Neem Karoli Baba.

That was Ram Dass’s guru, if you don’t know.

It’s a wonderful book. The accounts range from a single sentence to a page or two. Reading the book before sleep has led to a few dreams of Ram Dass and his Guru, and, more recently, just Maharaji. I don’t recall much of what happens in the dream. I just remember seeing his face. He’s always smiling.

So we’re on this free bus, on our way for a weekend vacation, when I decide to ask Neem Karoli Baba (aka Maharaji) for some money. I literally say in my head, “Maharaji, please can you bring some money my way?”

I asked this because, quite simply, finances are a little too tight for my liking at the moment.

So that was the request.

We’re squeezed in the bus, like sweaty sardines in an air conditioned tin, the bus comes to a stop outside the MRT, and because I’m closest to the door I’m the one to leave the bus first.

I step out of the bus, and a pink 100NTD note flies under my foot, before my foot touches the ground. It was literally as if it materialised out of the realm of the unmanifest.

Needless to say, I was shocked. What was even more surprising was that there was a queue of people waiting to get on the bus, and not one of them looked at the money.

They watched me pick it up, for sure, but they were watching as if the note was mine, and that I had dropped it. I hadn’t. I don’t carry notes in my pocket.

So I thanked Maharaji, told my wife, and she thanked him too, then suggested we get some snacks for the long trip ahead.

All this happened less than 30 minutes ago, so my imagination hasn’t had time to play with the details. In fact, I’m just about to eat the snack Maharaji’s money paid for, and I’m writing this sitting on the coach that’s taking us to the east.

🙏🏼

Have a great weekend, folks.

Blessings.

Gavin

(And yes, I did end up asking for more money. 100NTD is less than $4. It was as if Maharaji was laughing at me. “Yes, I see your plight, but now you know I see it, so just wait…” is what he seemed to be saying.)

A Feel-good Guided Meditation

If you’re looking for a quick pick-me-up in the form of a guided meditation, then look no further than my latest video on Tales & Meditations.

It’s designed to help you drop any of the unwanted heavy stuff and present to the world a new version of yourself.

I hope you enjoy it 🙂

Blessings.

Gavin

Snippets of the Seasons

I’ve just uploaded, to Tales & Meditations, excerpts from the audiobook of my teeny tiny fable, The Girl with the Green-Tinted Hair.

It’s a story about how a friendship blossoms through the four seasons, and what each of the seasons represents.

It might be a long trek from here to YouTube, and so I’ve put the excerpts below for you.

If you like what you hear, please like the video, share it with your nearest and dearest, and consider subscribing to Tales & Meditations.

Blessings,

Gavin

**Note – the audiobook available on Amazon does not contain the backing music. That was added by me.

Soul Messengers

I remember when I first heard Linda Roper’s narration of my book, The Girl with the Green-Tinted Hair.

At the sound of her soothing voice, I was instantly transported to the following scene:

I was sitting cross-legged, on the floor, at the slippered-feet of a grandma figure. The only source of light in the room was coming from a crackling fire. My hands were wrapped around a mug of hot chocolate, that was at just the right temperature for sipping.

Were there others with me?

Maybe, but being the solitary type I like to think not. I like to think I was the only one there, being read to, late at night, as the wind howled outside, as if it too wanted to listen.

“No, wind, you must stay outside. If you come inside you’ll blow the fire out, and the story will end.”

I’ve never experienced this scene. I never sat at my grandma’s feet, as she read a fable to me late into the night. But that’s the fantasy Linda’s voice created within me. Her voice contains magic of the purest kind.

As soon as I heard those first few words of The Girl with the Green-Tinted Hair, I knew the rest of the book was going to be amazing.

And it was.

It is.

It’s amazing.

And now she has a new audiobook out. It’s called Soul Messengers: The True Story of a Mystic, a Guardian, and a Businessman, and is written by Annette Childs PhD.

You can purchase the audiobook by clicking here.

And you can visit Linda’s website by clicking here.

If you’d like to hear her amazing work on my wee book, The Girl with the Green-Tinted Hair, then you can do so by clicking here.

These are not affiliate links, nor have I been asked to write this post. Linda has no idea I’m writing it. I’ll be sending it her as soon as I hit Publish.

Before you go, please have a look at my new YouTube channel Tales & Meditations, where I post videos on meditation, affirmations, and narrated tales. It’s currently a small community, but it’s growing. It would be nice to have you on-board, so if you like what you hear, please Subscribe.

Blessings.

Gavin

Affirmations for the Dying

(Taken from the description in the new video.)

Those of us who are dying can often feel alone. 

They’re turning into butterflies, when their loved ones, even though they may mean well, want to keep them as caterpillars.

That’s understandable. 

Letting go is hard; we’ve spent so long holding on.

But let go we must, and nobody knows that better than the dying.

I’ve known several people who have died. Some have been friends, others have been members of my family. 

I volunteered at my local hospice for a number of years, getting to know many people who knew they were dying. I saw that twinkle in their eye; that unique twinkle of a dying star.

Strange how it gets brighter towards the end. You wouldn’t think so. But it does.

Whatever the widespread belief is, regarding death and dying, for me it is fundamentally beautiful. 

It’s a natural and organic process, that we embarked upon the moment we were born. 

Shun death, and we shun life.

I wanted to do something, in my own limited way, for those of us who are dying. Something I wish I’d have done earlier, for those close to me who have been through the dying process. 

So I made this video.

The affirmations it contains are what I assume I would like to listen to, when it is my time to soar. They’re something to aid the transition, to help loosen the grip, to assist in facing the facts.

If you are reading this, and you are dying, consider this my gift to you. 

I truly hope you find peace in the process.

Sending you love and light and all things bright.

Your friend,

Gavin